AYCDI – Chapter Outline

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Today’s blog post shares the (tentative pending final edit) Chapter Outline for my new book ADOPTION: YOU CAN DO IT!  A Husband-Wife Date-Study for Successfully Raising Adopted Children in the Christian Home.  I hope your interest in my book will be piqued when you see all of the chapters which are included.  Each is short –just two or three pages — so they can be read in a single, brief sitting.  Each chapter ends with three open-ended reflection/discussion questions for building marital communication and strengthening bonds between husband and wife. The fun begins after finishing each chapter with an ‘at-home’ Creative Date!  My book is for adoptive couples and their supportive circle of elders, friends, and relatives who help them weather the storms of adoption.

Public Domain Clip Art Photos and Images: Tornado

Table of Contents

i. Preamble

  1. First Reader Reviews (Alpha and Beta readers reviews)
  2. Dedication and Thanksgiving

ii. Forward

  1. Purpose of this Book
  2. Disclaimer

Part One – The Call to Adopt           

  1. Adoption: God’s Call to His Bride, the Church, for Orphan Care
  2. Beginning to Consider Adoption
  3. Family On Board – Loving, Respecting, and Treating Adopted Children the Same as Your Biological Children
  4. Fast-Forward Parenting – Raising Traumatized Children
  5. Hello to Adoption, Goodbye to Some Friends and Family
  6. Separation and Bonding
  7. Character, Self-Discipline, and the 10 Commandments
  8. Bed Wetting and Other Frustrating Behaviors
  9. Manners and the Simple Things in Life
  10. Reality Hits- Adopted Children are Often Much More Challenging to Parent than Birth Children
  11. Real Relationships Face-to-Face
  12. Long Term Goals and Short Term Gains
  13. Finances, Monthly Budgets, and Subsidies
  14. Bridging Past and Future Lives with Perspective – Successful Adulthood is the Goal
  15. Relatives – Birth and Adopted
  16. Race, Ethnicity, and an Expanded Heritage
  17. Sibling Rivalry as Never Before
  18. Manipulation and Marriage – Staying Connected As a Couple
  19. Anger, Emotion, and Diffusing Volcanoes with Calm Communication
  20. Soul Soothing – Art, Music, and Hands-On Projects
  21. Delayed Gratification
  22. A Permanent Future – Stay Flexible, Stay Together, Stay Resolved
  23. Prayer and Love Cover a Multitude of Sins
  24. When You Just Can’t Go On – Parental Running Away, Return and Respite
  25. High Expectations, but Less Than Perfect is A-Okay

Part Two – Following the Call To Adopt:  Topical Issues Involved with Adoption

  1. Alcohol, Internet Pornography, and Mail Order Catalogues
  2. Anger – Tempers and Tantrums
  3. Bathrobes and Personal Modesty
  4. Bedrooms and Personal Property Boundaries
  5. Behavior in Public
  6. Birth Parents- Irresponsible Men and the Other Woman
  7. Birth Parents – Encouraging Appreciation for Life
  8. Charts and Other Practical Helps for Patterning, Routines, and Training
  9. Choices – Controlling the Body versus Leading the Heart
  10. Consequences – Natural, Imposed, and Punitive; What is Appropriate, and When?
  11. Imposed Consequences – Actions Speak Louder Than Words
  12. Dangerous Behaviors – the Reality of Adoption
  13. Depression and Suicidal Thoughts
  14. Fear versus Unconditional Love
  15. Fight, Flight, Freeze
  16. Guys Adventures, Girls Weekends
  17. Hair Care and Personal Grooming
  18. Health – Medical and Therapeutic Appointments
  19. Hobbycraft – Connected Relationship Builders
  20. Holidays
  21. Labels – Special Needs
  22. Life-long Learning
  23. Love Languages
  24. Nutrition and Diet
  25. Obsessions
  26. Older Biological Children – Adjusting Relationships
  27. One-on-One Time
  28. Parenting Differences in Dads and Moms – Avoiding Good Cop/Bad Cop
  29. Running Away
  30. Safety, Security, and Seizures
  31. Sexualized Behavior
  32. Sexually Abused Children
  33. Sin in All Its Forms – Aftermath and Management
  34. Sleepovers, Friends, and Birthday Parties
  35. Stealing Food, Money, and Hairbands
  36. Therapists and Outside Help
  37. Trust Based Relationship Intervention (TBRI©) Parenting
  38. Time-out, Time-in, and Tomato Staking
  39. 24/7/365 Supervision to Minimize Danger
  40. Work Ethic and Personal Property – Socialism versus Capitalism

Part Three – The Call To Adopt Answered:  Is It Worth the Cost?

  1. My Fair Lady
  2. What the Bible Says About Adoption
  3. What My Birth Kids Say About Adoption
  4. What My Adopted Kids Say About Adoption
  5. What Other Adoptive Parents Say About Adoption
  6. What the Church Should Consider – Family Integration and Wiser Counsel
  7. After You Study This Book

Part Four – Persevering Through the Marathon of the Call To Adopt – Appendix

  1. Author’s Recommended Resources
  2. Helplist for Churches Assisting Adoptive Families

iii. CREATIVE DATES:  Staying Connected as Husband and Wife at Home for (almost) FREE

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